Monday, December 12, 2011

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"You get what you get, so don't throw a fit."

A wonderful teacher I use to work with would tell her Kindergartners the phrase, "You get what you get, so don't throw a fit" whenever it applied - usually snack time fit perfectly.  Her point was to be grateful for what you get from someone else instead of upset about it.  I'm reminded of this phrase because it is Christmastime.  My family always goes to Jen's grandma's house on Christmas morning.  Years ago, someone in the family, who was a little immature, would open her gifts and let the giver know right away whether she liked it and would keep it or return it.  I was dumbfounded along with the rest of the family.  She needed to have that Kindergarten teacher in her life!!!  Gratefulness is a matter of the heart on the part of the receiver.  Consider how grateful your family is this Christmas for the gift you have received from God - a Savior!  Jesus born in Bethlehem, Mary riding a donkey, Joseph didn't divorce her, no room in the inn, shepherds in the field, angels in the sky, manger for a bed, etc. - wow, what an amazing account.  BUT it is just the beginning.  Jesus began life on earth in Bethlehem, but he eventually brought things "full circle" with Jerusalem, Golgotha, and the empty tomb!  At Christmas, that is what we get - a Savior.  Nothing else matters, so don't throw a fit.  "She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins."  Matthew 1:21



Family Discussion Points!

Talk about gratefulness.

Spend as much time talking about Easter this Christmas as you can.

Talk about what you want for Christmas like you always do, but also talk about what you already received - a Savior.

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

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Christmas Stress!!!!

We can probably all identify with some level of stress at Christmastime.  Whether it is your schedule, finances, shopping, parties, to do list, etc., Christmas can be stressful.  Christmas is time to celebrate the birth of our Savior in Bethlehem so long ago.  We have made it so much more than that, and in the process, created stress that we don't need.  I love how Jesus handled a very stressful situation in the book of John.  He just bends down and writes on the ground.  He gives himself time to think, gain perspective, and prepare an appropriate response.  The Pharisees are trying to trap him so they can get him thrown into jail, and he takes time to collect his thoughts.  Stressful situation --- great tactic!  A few years ago, I heard that it is wise to never share your first thought, and instead, always share your second thought.  Great advice, and I think Jesus modeled it perfectly in John 8:6 and 8:  "(6) They (Pharisees) were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.  (8) Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground."  Read the whole account to get a better picture of the stressful event.  Let's celebrate Christmas and share our second thought whenever we feel stressed in life!



Family Discussion Points!

What is the most stressful part of Christmas for each family member?  Can you eliminate any of those stressors?  If so, why don't you?

Is going to church on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day stressful?  Why?  How can you reduce the stress without skipping church?

What is the problem with sharing your first thought (most of the time anyway)?


Monday, November 21, 2011

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Thankfulness for what you DON'T HAVE!

This week, we'll celebrate thanksgiving.  Many people will pause to thank God for what they have!  That is a great thing to do.  However, I think it would be great to also consider the things you DON'T HAVE for which you can be thankful.  Can you be thankful that you don't have:

  • too little food to feed your family
  • a serious disease like cancer or something else
  • to sleep in your car or outside due to homelessness
  • a lack of heat in the cold months
  • a lack of medical care to keep you healthy
  • nobody to call a friend
  • to live in a country without the freedom you enjoy
  • to fear persecution or death for being a Christian

And the list could go on and on.  Now, there is no guarantee that some of those things I've listed don't apply to some people reading this, but my purpose is to just help you think of things you DON'T HAVE as you give thanks this year.  Talk about it as a family!  Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

Monday, November 14, 2011

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A Giving Attitude!
On Thursday last week, a grandparent of one of our students shared a wonderful story with me.  She was in the lobby waiting to pick up her grandchild, and she observed the bake sale happening.  A first grade student purchased some "goodies" for herself.  Then, she noticed this grandparent watching the bake sale, and asked her, "Do you need some money to buy something?  I have some left.  You can have it."  The grandparent declined the money, but she was floored by the generosity of such a young child.  I'm so thankful she shared the story with me because it made me remember to have a giving attitude in all things in life.  Giving my family more of my time...  Giving my time to help others...  Giving my money to help those in need...  Giving my abilities to serve others in some way...  Giving my love from Christ to those in need of His and my love... Giving when I see a need I can and want to meet...  Giving, Giving, Giving.  God has put all of us on this planet of His to do much more than breathe His air.  We are here to give ourselves and all that He has given us to love and support others.  What does that look like in your family?  I'm not sure, but you can talk about it today.  How can you give to someone else from what God has given you?  The book of Acts reminds us of Jesus' words about a giving attitude.  Acts 20:35b "...remembering the words of Jesus himself, 'It is more blessed to give than to receive.'"

Family Discussion Points!

Name some things God has given your family that you can share with others - don't forget to mention His love.  We can all share love!

Everyone tell your family members about a gift you got that was very special.

Discuss ways to give individually or as a family to others around you - think simple things like kind words, raking leaves, doing dishes or laundry, etc. as well as a special project you may come up with.

Monday, November 7, 2011

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Timid with Fear!

I had the privilege of coaching a girls’ team for the first time in all the years I've been coaching basketball.  The 5th and 6th graders had practiced well during the past two weeks.  They had worked hard, listened intently to instructions, and dedicated themselves to improving.  They had done everything right, BUT this was a real game!  They were scared stiff.  In the locker room before the game, I went through the game plan to try to calm their nerves, but I asked one fatal question:  "Ladies, any questions?"  They all started asking tons of questions.  So I decided it was best to just pray together and begin to warm up.  I find it somewhat comical how nervous they were, but I also felt very bad for them.  They had become so afraid of the unknown with this first game of the year that they became more concerned about not messing up than about giving it their best try.  The game went well, and we went on to win.  However, some girls had to be convinced to go into the game.  They were timid with fear.  After the game, the words of 2 Timothy 1:7 came to mind.  Paul wrote this to Timothy to encourage him to be faithful in witnessing about Jesus Christ, but I find the words so fitting for the girls:  "For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love, and of self-discipline."  God has blessed each of us with His Spirit, alive in us, to give us power in the face of real life.  It is a lesson I hope to teach the basketball team, but it is a lesson every Christian needs to remember as they live out their faith.

Family Discussion Points!

Everyone share times when you've been really nervous.

Talk about how the Holy Spirit in us gives us power when we are afraid.  With Him, we have the power to overcome our fears.

Share with each other any sports moment in your life that is a favorite.  Were the athletes timid with fear or full of power?

Monday, October 31, 2011

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Cutting Firewood with Dad!

Yesterday was an interesting day with my dad.  I took him to the woods with me to have him show me some trees I could cut down and use for the fireplace.  When I asked him to go with me, he responded with great enthusiasm for doing this together.  I grew up on a farm, and we primarily heated our house in the cold weather with two wood stoves in the basement.  Dad was excited to be cutting wood together like we had done so many times when I was young.  My dad would cut the wood while my siblings and I would carry it to the wagon.  Horrible work when you are a kid.  Yesterday, my dad's enthusiasm quickly waned.  My dad is almost 82 years old.  He has a hard time picking up things with his hands, and he gets tired very quickly at his age.  It was like a role reversal from my youth.  I was working like crazy cutting, dragging, stacking, etc.  Dad was the one relaxing on the tailgate, moving slowly, and continually going for a drink of water.  I remember trying to do that when I was a kid.  I also remember my dad working hard like I was yesterday when he was younger.  Time has changed us both, but cutting wood was a "common ground" for us for much of my youth.  We talked about wood cutting memories like cold weather, Christmas vacations spent cutting wood, getting warm on the tractor exhaust, and other memories as we stacked the wood.  He needed that because his body will soon be unable to carry wood.  His body is in a different season than it used to be, and so is mine.  Now, I want to cut wood instead of dreading it.  The Bible reminds us that there is a time for everything as we live life.  Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 gives a longer list, but I want to share verse 1:  "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven."  Yesterday was a different day and time of life for us both, but it was enjoyable to be together!  Cutting firewood with dad began being about getting firewood, but now I see that it was mostly about being with dad!!



Family Discussion Points!

Parents, share a special memory that you have of working with your parents.

Kids, is there a working activity you are forced to do now that you will always associate with your parents?

Identify together some "seasons" of life.  (Infancy, Youth, Jr. High, High School, etc.)  Talk about your memories together because you may find that memories are being established right now in your home.

Monday, October 24, 2011

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Recognizing a Fake!

I have to admit that I got "taken" pretty good last Sunday evening.  We had a garage sale on Friday (all day) and Sunday (1pm - 4pm) over the weekend, but I had a final customer show up about 6pm wanting to buy some items.  He wanted $2 worth of items, and I informed him that they were free.  In fact, I said, "Anything you want here is free.  The sale is over, and we want to get rid of it."  He selected a few more items, and he insisted on paying.  I was working in the back yard and wanted to get back to work, so I let him pay the $5 he insisted on paying.  Bad move on my part since he paid with a $50 bill.  I found out the following Wednesday that it was a counterfeit bill.  Ah, no wonder he insisted on paying!  He got $45 of real money, and I got "taken."  In 1 Kings Chapter 18, Elijah lets all of Israel know that they have been "taken" by the false gods of Baal and Asherah and their prophets.  The prophets totaled 850 people!  Quite a following, but it was all FAKE.  Elijah (only prophet of God) challenged the prophets of Baal (450 prophets) on Mount Carmel in order to decide if God was God or Baal was god.  What a hilarious account, and it is about the only time I find taunting humorous.  Read 1 Kings 18:16-40 to get all the details.  In your family and mine, there are fake gods - money, cars, TV, computers, toys, iPods, clothes, busyness, cleanliness, alcohol, etc...  All stuff we place so much importance on instead of the REAL THING - GOD OUR HEAVENLY FATHER.  Let's get focused on the real God and His Son, Jesus Christ.  The rest are all fakes - don't get "taken" by the world's gods.

Family Discussion Points!

What is your family's favorite evening activity?  Is it a god or just an activity?

What gods do you have in your life?  Each family member can share things they place above God, our Father.

Discuss how all those things that can become gods are not bad except when we give them priority over God.  That is when they are not good.

Monday, October 17, 2011

October 17, 2011

Partners in Parenting

A Good Kind of Pain!

It is Monday, and my body hurts like crazy today.  I woke up yesterday sore too.  On Saturday, I played about an hour and a half of football and baseball with some young kids.  It was great fun, but my body reminded me on Sunday morning that I was not prepared ahead of time for that activity.  Then, Jen and I cleaned up our landscape plants that were a bit overgrown all Sunday afternoon.  Five hours of pulling, clipping, bagging, raking, hoeing, etc.  My body must not think too much of my intelligence.  After all, it (my body) already told me I had overexerted the day before.  Yes, I'm in some pain today, but yes, it was worth it.  Playing football and baseball was fun.  Looking at our landscape Sunday night was very rewarding.  As I felt the pain settling in before bed Sunday night, I thought about how pain isn't always a bad thing.  I could have skipped playing football and baseball, but I would have missed out on fun and building relationships.  I could have skipped working on the landscape, but it wouldn't look nice like it does now.  As a parent, I need to remember that disciplining my kids creates pain in their life - but it is a good kind of pain.  It is good because it helps mold their character so that, like playing football, positive relationships can be experienced.  It is good because it helps mold their character so that, like landscaping, a more beautiful thing results.  God disciplines us because He loves us, and we, as parents, need to discipline our kids because we love them. 

Hebrews 12:11 "No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful.  Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it."



Family Discussion Points!

Share a few times when you overexerted yourself and were sore the next day.

Talk about the positive sides to experiencing pain.  (Pain is a great teacher, isn't it?)

Discuss the importance of discipline in life in various aspects (exercise, promptness, reliability, good choices, etc.)

Develop a discipline that you want to start as a family.  It may be painful to do, but it will be worth it.  (Family devotions, game night, outside walk once/week, etc.)

Monday, October 10, 2011

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Changing Your Role!

The duties of parents are so vast that it is hard to even try to list them all.  I just know that your role changes with many factors including the age of your child, which child you are interacting with, the nature of the issue at hand, etc.  Parents fulfill a very different role for a 6 month old child than they do for a 6 year old child – or a 16 year old young adult!  Changing your role is necessary because some issues need you to be forceful and direct while other times, it is entirely appropriate that you are soft, comforting, and reassuring.  As you read this, I’d like you to consider how your role changes as you fulfill all that it means to be a parent.  You may think, “WOW, I’m really confusing my kid because of how I have so many different roles in their life.  Take comfort, you are not confusing them.  You are meeting their needs to the best of your ability based on where they are at today.  Their needs are very different and changing (and they’ll continue to be that way).  Your children are very different.  Each circumstance is very different.  However, you need to be a constant for your children in the fact that you are here to love them no matter what.  Your role will change, but your love never will.  Make sure they know that, and make sure they know that it is the same way with Jesus.  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”  John 15:13



Family Discussion Points!

Parents - list all your roles (parent, spouse, employee, etc.)

Kids - list all your roles (student, teammate, friend, helper, etc.)

Talk about roles you used to play for your child (like diaper changer) that you don't have to do any longer.

Talk about some roles you think are coming in the future.

Discuss how roles will change, but your love for each other never will!!

Monday, October 3, 2011

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A "Run-In with the Law"

I have to admit that I had a "run-in with the Law" on Saturday night.  Here's what happened:

I went to the farm where I grew up to enjoy participating in opening day of bow season here in Michigan.  I hunted until dark, walked back to the house, and went in to see my dad.  My dad came outside just as I was ready to open the door.  He said, "Man, am I glad to see you.  I was worried something happened out there."  I didn't really understand why he was so concerned, but he said it was because I wasn't back right away when it got dark.  We talked for a little bit before a Deputy Sheriff pulled into the driveway.  He jumped out of his truck and asked me if I was the missing person.  I couldn't believe it!  My dad had called 911 to report me missing since I wasn't back right at the time it became dark.  I had to give my personal information as a report needed to be filed, but I was otherwise "free to go!"  As I drove home, I was reminded of how I've had other experiences with police officers in my life.  They helped me remember to obey laws to keep myself and others safe.  That's when I connected it to God's Law in Scripture.  I was "free to go" on Saturday night because I hadn't done anything wrong, BUT I am "free to go" to heaven even though I've done everything wrong in life.  How is that possible - faith in Jesus Christ!  Jesus has paid the price for all my sins.  That is true for all Christians.  Freedom is found in Christ for all the times we fail as we have a "run-in with His law."

Romans 8:1-2 says, "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death."



Family Discussion Points!

Parents, share a few stories of your "run-ins with the law."  (No, this won't be perceived as a "license" to go break the law too.)

Talk about what it means to be "free to go" when you haven't done something wrong vs. "free to go" for eternity when you have done something wrong - sin.

Discuss:  Is the law good or bad?

Monday, September 26, 2011

September 26, 2011

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Great Job Being Illogical!

Yesterday, I was reading Luke Chapter 5:1-11 where Jesus calls His first disciples - Simon (later named Peter by Jesus), James, and John.  Jesus asked Simon to do something very illogical.  Here's a quick recap of the account: 

Simon's been fishing all night without catching anything.  In the morning, he comes in to clean his nets, but Jesus jumps into his boat and has him go out into the water a little way.  Jesus proceeds to use Simon's boat as a pulpit, if you will, to teach the people.  Then, Jesus tells Simon to go into deeper water and let down his nets.  Simon has a very logical response since he makes his living as a fisherman.  He says in vs. 5, "Master, we've worked hard all night and haven't caught anything..."  Now he finishes with a very illogical statement.  "...But because you say so, I will let down the nets." 

As I read this willingness to follow the command of Jesus on Simon's part, I was reminded of how living out my faith as a Christian is not always logical.  The world’s logic is NOT God's logic.  The world says "get even."  God says "forgive."  The world says "blame someone else."  God says "ask for forgiveness."  The world says, "you have to get ahead in life."  God says, "because of your faith, you already are 'ahead' in life now and for eternity."  As a parent, I get so caught up in the worldly logic that I dismiss the Godly logic.  I want to focus my life and my parenting efforts on being illogical to the world!



Family Discussion Points!

Give an example of worldly logic and Godly logic to the following scenarios:

                I just got pushed by a classmate at recess, so I...

                Someone sent me a mean text message, so I decided to...

Talk about forgiveness for when we follow the world's logic.  Everyone needs to know there is forgiveness with God.  God's love is that great!

Think of something illogically nice to do for someone else.  Do it!

Monday, September 19, 2011

September 19, 2011

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Mi Riting Ain't So Gud!

If you can decipher that title, you might be thinking, "What kind of knuckleheaded principal do we have around here."  The title is actually, "My writing is not very good."  That's if I write using proper English.  I share this with you, parents, because my eyes were opened to the writing habits of our kids the other day.  With Mr. Brown gone to outdoor education, I taught 7th Grade math on Wednesday through Friday.  The students had to write a story problem based on the information provided to them.  They did a great job with the math concept, but I had to do either minor or major editing to each student's three sentences.  I helped with capital letters, punctuation, run on sentences, inverted word order, misspelled words, etc.  I informed the class that writing is important for getting into college, but many times, it is also a requirement of getting into high school.  I also let them know that I sit on a committee that gives awards of over $125,000 each year to individuals who must write an application for the money.  The poor writers never get the money.  The texting world has given us all lots of freedom to condense our words to create meaning, so it must be textings fault, right?  Wrong!  Did any of you take shorthand in high school?  I did not, but all my brothers and sisters did.  They still had to write properly on their assignments whether they knew shorthand or not.  The truth is we are not requiring it, and the kids know it.  I want to have you join the teachers and me in helping our kids be successful in every way with better writing habits and abilities.  When they put their name on their writing, it should represent their thoughts well.  Even the apostle Paul recognized the importance of placing his name on his own writing in Colossians 4:18:  "I, Paul, write this greeting in my own hand."



Family Discussion Points!

Have the whole family work together to edit this sentence (or is it two sentences): 



i want to really go to the store to buys some candie then i will ete it fast, and



i won't share none with my bruthers.



Work on this together, and see how you do based on the answer below.  The way I did it is not the only way to correct it. 

Discuss texting habits that transfer into our daily writing.  Where does it happen?

Discuss the difference between formal writing and just getting information down (grocery list is just information, letter writing is more formal)

These are all things we are teaching at school, and we'll continue to teach it.  Any help at home will be a benefit to the students.  Thanks.



     A possible answer:  I really want to go to the store to buy some candy.  I will eat it quickly, and I won't share any of the candy with my brothers. 

(underlined words denote a correction made - I also excluded the word "then" as it has no value in the sentence)

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Monday, September 12, 2011

A Truly High Position!

This past weekend, I took my son, Logan (age 7 if you don't know him) up north to my in-laws cabin to go fishing.  It was just the two of us on an overnight trip.  Pretty special time for both of us!  I had been fishing on Houghton Lake previously this summer and found a few holes that produces plenty of good-sized walleye, bluegills, and even a smallmouth bass.  We were pretty excited as we cruised across the lake in the cool of the morning.  Before long, we were rather hot under the clear sky with not a single fish in the boat.  We tried moving to other spots, but we still couldn't get a fish to bite.  Finally, Logan saw my bobber dip into the water indicating a bite.  He grabbed my pole and pulled in a small perch.  We were excited to have at least caught one fish, and I kept waiting for him to want to be done fishing.  He didn't ask to stop, and he seemed to completely enjoy the time alone on the boat.  He was happy, but I was a bit frustrated.  I wanted to find some fish for him, and I wanted him to find our trip "successful" as fishermen.  After four hours, we headed back to the cabin.  As we pulled up to the dock, Logan's words hit me pretty hard:  "It was a great day fishing, and at least I caught one."  I  realized at that moment that the real value was being father and son, not great fishermen.  He focused on being together as I tried to find him some fish.  We talked, joked, laughed, taught, learned, dared, and wondered together on that boat.  I was humbled as a fisherman, but I was reminded of my high position as Logan's dad.  Being a dad is a much higher position in life than a good fisherman.  That's true for all parents.  That's also true for all Christians with our Heavenly Father.  James 1:9 reminded me of this:  "The brother in humble circumstances ought to take pride in his high position."  (NOTE:  This refers to our status as Christians having a high position due to our acknowledgement of our sin and forgiveness.)



Family Discussion Points!

Talk together about humbling events in your life:  losing a job, getting cut from a team, getting a poor grade, getting embarrassed, etc.

Think of as many "high positions" as you can in worldly terms:  president, boss, etc.

Think of as many "high positions" as you can in Godly terms:  forgiven sinner, child, Father, Mother, Friend, etc.

Talk about how to remind each other as a family of what is important and what is not.

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Partners in Parenting, September 1, 2011

Beautiful and Ugly!

In case you didn't know, we moved into a home about a mile away from school this summer.  One of the features of the home is that it is beautifully landscaped.  There are a variety of flowers, bushes, vines, and other pretty things I can't even categorize.  There were no weeds, everything was mulched nicely, potted plants had been watered, etc. As I looked at the house the beauty of the landscape caught my attention, but then I went behind the shed in the backyard to have my attention "caught" in a whole different way.  There is a space back there with weeds over my head.  There were vine-like weeds along the ground, climbing the fence, and seeking to intrude on the landscape.  It was a mess.  But it couldn't be seen unless you walk back there.  I thought about how our lives are kind of like that - we look real good to the outside world, but we have this mess inside us as we take a deeper look at things.  The mess is sin, and messes need to be cleaned up.  God cleaned up the sin in us by sending Jesus to make us clean again through His death and resurrection.  Romans 8:1,2 reminds us, "Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death."  Maybe have your kids help you pick weeds from your landscape this weekend and remind them that they are getting rid of the bad stuff (sin) just like Christ has done for them - and you!



Family Discussion Points!

Talk about the reality that we are all sinful, but perfect before God due to Jesus' forgiving us of everything.  (Big concept, but very true)

Parents, share some major messes you got into when you were a child.  It's OK for them to know you messed up too.

Plan a time when you will work together as a family picking weeds out of your landscape making it beautiful in order to identify with Christ making us clean.

Monday, April 11, 2011

Partners in Parenting, April 11, 2011

Prepare NOW!
Life happens and comes at each of us at an incredible pace.  So much is happening so quickly that it is easy to forget about planning and preparedness.  I know we should have a fire escape plan, but we don't right now.  In essence, we aren't prepared.  We are told to prepare now for our kids college, retirement, emergency expenses, and all kinds of things.  However, it is all too easy to take life as it comes and prepare very little for the future.  In reading the Bible to the students each morning during announcements, I've been sharing Matthew 26 a few verses at a time.  It  has always struck me as odd that Jesus actually told Peter he'd deny him three times (Matthew 26:34), and he did it just a few hours later - after he said he'd never fall away, then said he'd die with Jesus if he had to.  Whoops!  Peter drew his sword and cut off the ear of the servant of the high priest without thinking about what Jesus had just said would happen.  What?  I think Peter's impulsivity and lack of preparedness for the events surrounding Jesus last days caused him to act hastily because he was not prepared to act properly.  Oh, how I can understand that in my own life.
I think it is important to help our children prepare now for how they will respond when difficult events happen.  If we don't, they may respond hastily like Peter did at that time and make some mistakes.  If we do, they may be better equipped to act properly instead of falling into temptation.  Prepare your kids now for things like:  standing up for someone being treated poorly, being honest at all times, rejecting drugs, alcohol, tobacco, etc., showing respect to all people, witnessing to those who don't believe, etc.

NOTE:  Kind of funny that I should write about being prepared when I did not adequately plan ahead to have this written prior to today like I should have! 

Family Discussion Points!
Parents, share when you opened your first savings account to be prepared for the future.
Everyone share something you want to buy in the future.  Then, how will you prepare now in order to make that purchase.
Talk about a time or two when you weren't prepared to do the right thing and you acted in haste (this can be as simple as being mean to someone out of anger to much more severe things like personal safety).  You may want to talk to different age kids separately as the issues are very different.

Partners in Parenting, April 4, 2011

What does the future hold?
This past weekend, I had the opportunity to drive around in Chevrolet's new Volt - an electric car.  It was amazing to experience normal acceleration, handling, and overall feel of a car - without the sound of an engine.  It was a incredible experience.  Coincidentally, one of my children asked me on Saturday what kind of computer I had when I was a kid.  Funny question because I didn't.  I remember when my school got an Apple IIe for the school when I was in 5th grade.  One computer for the whole school was a technological breakthrough.  Now, many people carry their computers, planners, phones, etc. in their hand.  Where is all this stuff going for our kids?  What will their world be like?  Who knows?  So what are we to do as parents.  I really believe that the best thing we can do is prepare them for a changing world with a deep relationship with the one thing that will not change - Jesus Christ.  Jesus Christ will not change regardless of technological advances or other changes coming our way.  We simply cannot see the future completely unless we look at our eternal future.  That is all that is secure through faith in Jesus Christ as our Savior.  "Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever." Hebrews 13:8  What does the future hold?  It holds Jesus Christ for all who believe.

Family Discussion Points!
Parents, tell a story to your kids about the first computer experience you ever had.
Kids, share with your parents what you think your life would be like without computers.  Then parents, let them know how different everything would really be for our present life.
Imagine what will happen with computers in the next 5, 10, 20 years.
Will Jesus Christ change in that time?

Partners in Parenting, March 28, 2011

Protect Your Kids!
Last Wednesday, I drove to Cincinnati, Ohio for the Lutheran Education Association Convocation with three of our teachers.  Just about 20 miles north of Cincinnati, it began to rain as we entered into a storm.  I heard a few high pitched sounds on the windshield, and I began to wonder if it was hailing or just raining huge raindrops.  After going a few miles, it became obvious that it was hail.  Then, hail began to fall so hard that you couldn't hear anything inside the van.  It was absolutely deafening!!  I've enclosed a picture of what it looked like in about 20 seconds.  I took the picture in order to have proof of the hail in case there was some kind of damage to the van.  Thankfully, there was not.  Incredible experience!  I thought that evening about how we were protected inside the confines of that van.  I thought about having to stand in that hail storm and absorb the blows from each small piece of hail.  They were small, but the barrage would have been devastating.  I then thought about how parents have to protect their kids from the "barrages" of the culture in which they live.  Parents, do you protect your kids from inappropriate movies, TV shows, music, foods, drinks, and here's a huge one - THOUGHTS.  I know I do a better job of protecting my own children from all those things listed above, but it is the thoughts that infiltrate their mind that I seem to forget.  As parents, let's be vigilant in protecting our kids on all fronts!
Jesus prayed for his disciples protection against the world and Satan that they would be facing in the days ahead in John 17:14, 15:  "I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world.  My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one."  The van protected us on our trip to Cincinnati in a severe storm.  God protects us on our trip through life in the challenges of being His children.  Parents, protect your kids as God protects you.

Family Discussion Points!
Share a time of being in a storm.  Where did you go to seek cover?
Share some things in our culture that are not good for us (certain movies, video games, music, etc.)
Talk about God's protection in our lives through making good choices that are consistent with His word.  Also share His unending love when we make the wrong choices.

Partners in Parenting, March 21, 2011

Be Authentic!
There is a small group of people that my wife works with who are going to dinner together with the purpose of trying different authentic foods from around the world.  I've learned that authentic German food is not quite like the good old potluck at church.  Ethiopian food tasted pretty good, but I would much prefer to eat with silverware than they way to do it with pure authenticity.  It's been fun to experience, but I was just a bit disappointed last week when I went to a Creole restaurant.  I ordered one of my favorite things in the world - jambalaya!  I received my bowl, took a big sniff of the spices, and began to dig in.  Bummer!  It just didn't have any "zip" to it at all.  I love spicy things and especially my favorite dish.  My first thought was, "This isn't authentic Creole food!"  I added habanera sauce to my dish until I had it just right.  Then I enjoyed.  As I consider my initial displeasure with my food, I'm reminded of something so very important.  I expected real jambalaya, and God expects us to be real with Him and others.  As parents, we need to be authentic with God in order to share with Him in prayer our loves, hurts, joys, sorrows, concerns, thanks, and thoughts.  So many times, we don't seem to need God because we have life figured out and things are going good.  What a lie!!  God wants us to humble ourselves and talk to Him plainly.  Our kids need us to do the same thing in being humble and authentic with them.  Jesus thought it was important enough to teach people to see themselves with a humble reality - that's authentic - so He told a short parable.  Read Luke 18:9-14 to learn about the Pharisee and tax collector.

Family Discussion Points!
Have every family member share their favorite meal and its origin (Pizza - Italian, etc.).
Talk about things that can be authentic and fake (jewelry, foods, tattoos, tans, etc.).
Talk about ways to be real, honest, and authentic in prayer instead of just going through the motions or putting on a show like everything is fine.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Partners in Parenting, March 14, 2011

Gunshots at my house!
Yep, it's true.  The other night, I sat in bed reading while Jenny slept next to me.  As I read, I heard two loud "pops" outside my house.  I slipped out of bed and peeked out the front door window.  I could see two pair of headlights and two sets of exhausts coming out of two cars.  I couldn't see the cars since they were right behind the large pine tree in the front yard.  My first thought was that there was an altercation going on.  Then, I saw four people up by the church in the bushes.  Two of them began walking to my left when I saw the glow of their police officer reflective patches on their shoulder.  OK - at least I felt safe now, but I wondered what they were doing.  After a few moments the police officers dragged the deer they had to shoot out of the bushes.  It must have been hit by a car, and that is part of the responsibilities of police officers.  I was certainly startled to attention that night.  As we enter into the season of Lent, I can't help but think of where this is all headed.  It is certainly headed to Jesus death for our benefit.  It is certainly headed for the celebration of Jesus' resurrection on Easter.  But we are also headed to Jesus' multiple appearances to verify that He had indeed risen.  He appeared to the two men on the road to Emmaus (Luke 24:13-25).  They must have been as startled as two people possibly could be to discover they had just walked along the road and talked to the same Jesus of Nazareth that they had just seen crucified.  Just like me, they were startled, then reassured!  Please take time to read Luke 24 as a family in preparation for this Lenten and Easter season.

Family Discussion Points!
Just talk about what you read in Luke 24.  Enjoy!

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Students vs Staff Basketball game

Parents,

I hope you will come for an evening of fun Friday, March 4th at 6:30pm for some basketball.  Pep Squad and Cheerleaders will perform, and we'll also have a parent attempting to win $500 or $1,000 off their 2011-12 tuition.

Hope to see you there for the fun!!

Mr. Petzold

Partners in Parenting, Feb 28, 2011

What Does Love Look Like?
I was in an area Walgreen's the other day to witness a very unusual exchange between a customer and a worker.  The customer was very loud, rude, and demeaning to the worker.  The worker continued to be calm, helpful, and supportive of the real desires of the customer (to get her prescription ASAP).  After the whole exchange ended, I went to the pharmacy counter to share with the worker how impressed I was with how she handled the situation.  She just said thanks for noticing and "It wasn't any big deal."  My reply was that it was a big deal because that was real customer service in action when it wasn't easy.  After I left, I thought about how love is like that - in essence, she displayed love to that customer.  It's easy to love your kids when they are obeying and behaving well, but it is tough to due when they are rude and disrespectful.  I also noticed how that worker stayed focused on what the customer needed without considering her own need to be respected as an employee.  Do I keep loving and helping as a parent when I'm not respected by my children?  Do I stay focused on what they need instead of my own needs?  Sometimes loving our children is tough because it involves punishment and discipline, but it is what they need.  Sometimes loving our children means protecting them, serving them, sharing with them, helping them, etc.  Love looks different for every situation, but love looks like something because it is an action, not a feeling!  Notice Jesus' action!  "This is how we know what love is:  Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.  And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers."  I John 3:16

Family Discussion Points!
Share a time when someone has talked mean to you or tried to hurt you with words.
Talk about tough love and what it looks like.
Parents, share with your children what it means to love them enough to provide them with consequences.
Then, share a time when your parents did that for you!

Monday, February 14, 2011

I'm behind

Parents, 

I don't know how many of you have been here looking for me to post the latest stuff happening, but I'm behind in keeping this current.  I really try to communicate well, but there are so many avenues for communicating.  This blog is at the bottom of my priority, but I'll keep trying to place things here that are important.

FYI - I'll be out of the office over the mid-winter break, but you can contact me via cell phone if there is an emergency.

In Christ,

Julian Petzold, Principal

Partners in Parenting, Feb. 14, 2011

Sometimes, It's Just Plain Hard!
This past week, was very hard for me and for my family.  On Friday morning, I took our family dog, General, to the vet, and he is no longer with us.  It was so hard to make the call to make the appointment, load him into the truck, drive him to the vet, get out of the truck, go inside, and continue to take the necessary steps that drew him and me closer to his death.  It was soooo hard!  Life can be like that.  Consider the times of difficulty in your own life.  The death of a loved one, a broken relationship, a wounding word or words, financial stress, bad things happening, illness, and many other life circumstances.  Sometimes, it's not an event that is so hard, but it is the accumulation of many events, circumstances, or things that are so hard.  Well, I'm coming to understand that hard doesn't mean impossible.  Parenting is sometimes just plain hard like life.  Hard - yes!  Impossible - no!  What are we parents to do when it gets hard.  I think the best thing we can do is seek God's Word for daily guidance, do the next right and best thing we can, and continue to trust in Him is all things.  Paul has some incredibly encouraging words for us:  I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty.  I have learned the secret of being content in a ny an devery situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.  I can do everything through him who gives me strength."  Philippians 4:12, 13

Family Discussion Points! 
What is something hard that your family has been through?
How did you manage that hard time?  Well?  Poorly?
Did you actively seek God's strength during that time or not? 
Talk together about facing the next hard thing in life together with each other and with God in a more intimate manner than before.

Partners in Parenting, Feb. 7, 2011

Impulsivity!
Kids can be pretty impulsive sometimes.  I have come to believe that sometimes when you ask your child, "Why did you do that?"  They reply with an honest answer, "I don't know."  I truly believe that they don't know because their impulsivity got them into some trouble.  It is so hard to follow the practice of stopping and thinking before acting.  I struggled with impulsivity alot when I was younger, but mostly when someone was cheating.  I'd rather lose every game I ever played than win by cheating.  I couldn't tolerated cheating, and cheating brought out lots of impulsivity and, quite frankly, poor behavior when I was young.  We are all still impulsive to some extent today.  Impulsivity isn't bad or wrong, but impulsivity can lead us to poor behavior because we haven't thought things through.  Think things through as a parent more often.  It will help you remain in control as the parents, and it will also model a calm response to adversity.  The apostle Peter struggled with this.  I was reminded of it when I was reading Luke 22:54-62 where he denies Jesus three times.  Once he had time to think about what he had done in denying Jesus, he wept bitterly (vs. 62).  Pause, think, respond!  That's a better scenario.

Family Discussion Points!
Play an impulsive game together like a word association game (example:  Peanut _______)
Share times when acting before thinking got you into trouble or presented more  problems that could have been avoided.
As a family, remind people in your family to stop and think when impulsivity is getting the best of them.  Grant permission to all family members to do this for each other.

Partners in Parenting, Jan. 31, 2011

Spies Among Us - Part I!
I was in Blockbuster looking for a video for my family to watch the other night when my attention was drawn to a little girl and her mom.  The little girl was only about 5 years old, but she had "the system" pretty well figured out.  Here's about exactly how it went:

Girl:  "Mom, I want to get this movie."
Mom:  "No, that one isn't a good one for you."
Girl (more loudly):  "Yes, it is.  I want this one!"
Mom:  "No.  You can't get that one."  (then she opened a window)  "Here, let me see it."
(and the 5 year old pounced)
Girl (screaming):  "I want that one.  Buy me that one."
Mom (very sternly):  "Just stop it and I'll get it."  (exasperated) "This is why I never want to take you anywhere."

That little girl worked mom over pretty good.  It happens to all of us.  It may be batting the eyes, a little whining, asking one parent over the other, crying, reminding us that "everyone is doing it," or just asking over and over until we cave in.  Our kids have been "spying" on us all along learning how to work us over when they need to.  Parents basically live with "spies."  They aren't evil in doing this.  They are just going about what it takes to get something they want, and they've learned our responses in order to get it. 
It's a good reminder that they are constantly watching us and learning.  Be ready for them when they see your weakness.  Stand firm and stand loving as you lead your kids.  I try every day.  It's hard, but it is worth it!

Family Discussion Points!
What are some indicators each family member has to let you know that they are ready to cave in - parents and kids.
Talk about a time when you "worked it" to get your way. 
Discuss a process of kids asking politely, parents responding to the request, and kids politely asking parents to reconsider.  This can avoid the scenario above.

Partners in Parenting, Jan. 24, 2011

Check Your Ears!
When I was young, my mom would often say to us kids, "Don't forget to check your ears."  She'd usually say that before bed as we cleaned up and before church on Sunday.  I guess having clean ears was pretty important to my mom.  I recalled this advice from her this past week as I was reading from 2 Timothy chapter 4.  Here Paul reminds Timothy that people need to hear the truth, and truth is only found in the Bible.  Sometimes our ears "itch" for a truth that is more comforting or satisfying than the Bible, but in the end, it is a lie.  Our kids have "itching" ears as well when they kindly inform us parents that "everyone else is doing it."  They want that approval to do something contrary to what is right according to God's Word.  There are plenty of other examples as well.  It is a normal thing for every human to do in order to get what is desirable.  My prayer is that you "check your ears" to see if they are "itching" or taking in the truth of God's Word when daily circumstances arise in your family.  For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine.  Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teacher to say what their itching ears want to hear.  They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths."  2 Timothy 4:3,4
Think of this each time you clean your ears:)

Family Discussion Points!
Parents, share some truths with your children that will help them as they grow.  (examples:  Life is not always fair.  God is always going to love you, and I will too.  Attitude is 90-95% of overcoming obstacles. Etc.)
Everyone, share your favorite truth or Bible verse that helps you in your faith.
Try to start more sentences with the words, "God's Word says..."  This brings truth into the every day and helps prevent the "itching" for non-Biblical ideas.

Monday, January 17, 2011

Partners in Parenting, Jan. 18, 2011

What is Age-Appropriate?
I am going to share something that I hope doesn't bring about any formal charges, arrests, or convictions! HAHA!  At nine years of age, my dad handed me the keys to the car and asked me to drive to town to get gas for him before the gas station closed.  Being an obedient son (yeah right), I headed for town 3 miles away taking all the back roads I could.  When I arrived, Dale (owner of the gas station and good friend of my dad) came to the window because it was a full-service station.  When I rolled down the window, Dale looked in, saw me, stood up, and said out loud, "Oh God.  Roll up the window."  He pumped the gas and walked away to put the amount owed on my dad's account.  I drove back home.  I was first excited to get to drive on the road, then scared that I'd get in an accident, and finally relieved to have made it home safely.
Many people might be angry with my dad, but here is the rest of the story.  I grew up in a rural farming community.  I had been driving tractors and other vehicles around the farm and occasionally on the road for a few years.  It was a normal way of life to be driving on the farm.  However, I agree that I was too young to be driving alone on a road.
As parents, we have to continually make decisions regarding when our child(ren) is old enough for an activity, movie, video game, cell phone, dating, freedom, decision making power, etc.   Age-appropriate shouldn't be left to chronological age alone.  Parents need to consider each child's developmental level of maturity in determining what is age-appropriate.  It's a difficult thing when parenting, but I'd always recommend erring on the side of caution in regards to whether your child is old enough yet.  They only get to be children once - let them enjoy the innocence of it.  I bet King Josiah lost lots of innocence as King of Israel at age 8!  "Josiah was eight years old when he became king, and he reigned in Jerusalem thirty-one years."  2 Kings 22:1

Family Discussion Points!
Parents, share some things your parents wouldn't let you do when you were young.
Children, share one thing you wish you were old enough to do RIGHT NOW!  Is that good for you to do now or not?
Discuss as a family whether you think parents are mean or loving when they say, "You aren't old enough for that."

Tuesday, January 11, 2011

Outdoor Ed and Snow Day

Parents,
If we have a snow day for Wednesday, we will postpone going to 7th grade outdoor ed until Thursday.  We will contact you with details should this become necessary due to a snowday!

In Christ,
Mr. Petzold

Coffee with the Principal Agenda, Jan 10, 2011

Coffee with the Principal
Trinity Lutheran Church, School, and Early Childhood Center
January 10, 2011

1.      Refreshments:  Susan Ide, ???????
2.  Devotion:     Things that go together / Things that DON'T go together
What are some things that go (Peanut butter and _______, mashed potatoes and ___________, etc.)
What are some things that don't (Plaids and ________, Lakers and ___________,etc.)
            Think of more ideas

Romans 3:28-30
            Why can't we get it straight that faith and observing the law (works) don't go together for salvation, but they do go together for daily living.
            57% of Christians believe Jesus is ________ to heaven!  (a, the only way, a possible way, one of many ways, part of how to get)  It's the correct answer, but that's not good that only 57% get it right.

3.       Prayers:
    1. That we would forever understand the one way to salvation
    2. That we would effectively guide our children as parents to know that one way IN THE HEART
    3. That we would be more ready to discern the messages of the world that are lies

4.                  Calendar
    1. 2nd quarter ends - January 14
    2. NO SCHOOL - January 17 MLK Day
    3. Open House - Feb 6-8 (Sunday - Tuesday)
    4. Pint Size
      Heroes Blood Drive
      - Feb 15
    5. Half Day of School - Feb 17, 18 PT Conferences
    6. NO SCHOOL - Feb 21-23 Mid-Winter Break
    7. Future Calendars - Common Calendar with Public and LHSA schools

5.                  Future plans / Vision
    1. Detention Policy
    2. Other School Handbook changes coming - a few examples
    3. After school clubs - see me if interested in offering something
    4. Bible Study from 8am-9am was mentioned before - The Case for Faith (Fridays???)
    5. CEF Stamp Program for kids' future - need 2 more volunteers
    6. Leader name change - contest for the kids
    7. Shurley English program might happen

6.                  Cold Days vs Snow Days
7.                  All students will be going to recess every day beginning Jan. 18th!!!!!!
8.                  Reenrollment Process
9.                  Marketing the school - you are critical

10.              Events:
    1. Christmas assembly and St. Nicolaus Tag did happen, and I think the kids had fun
    2. Book Fair is coming at the end of February - look for info
    3. National Lutheran Schools Week in March - plan to participate with us
    4. Evening Faculty vs students basketball game in March


11.              Assessment/Other
    1. School Satisfaction Survey results from last spring
    2. Prayer requests are welcome at any time to myself or a teacher - we are committed to praying for our students and families.
    3. New Scoreboard coming today
    4. New Wish List has been published

12.              Refreshments for the next Coffee with the Principal – Thursday, March 3, 2011
    1. ?
    2. ?
13.              SCRIP and/or CEF Program Questions
14.              Feedback/Comments/Concerns/Ideas etc.








15.              Closing Prayer
16.              Next meeting:
            12 Key Factors of engagement discussion
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