Monday, February 25, 2013

Partners in Parenting


“Keeping the Flame going!”
Yesterday, Jen and the kids went to early church and confirmation class before driving up to her sister’s house for haircuts.  I went to Bible study and late church before heading home to spend an afternoon at home – just me and Zeke (chocolate lab) to do as we wished.  I made myself a list of things to get done:  laundry, new pads on the kitchen chairs, organize all my hunting stuff from last fall, organize fishing stuff for the coming season, marinade chicken for supper, sharpen my pocket knife, etc.  I did these things at a relaxed pace while watching the Daytona 500 with the TV volume turned way up.  I also started a fire in the fireplace.  It has been a long time since I had six hours free to do whatever I wanted.  Each task got completed and checked off the list, but one task never even made it onto the list.  It was a task that lasted longer than any other – in fact it lasted into the late evening.  The task of keeping the fire going in the fireplace needed regular attention.  A few times, I looked up from my work to find red coals without a flame.  I had to stir the coals, add wood, and blow on the coals – ah, a beautiful fire emerged again.
Later, when Jen got back home, she was talking to a friend on the phone.  She reminded her friend of a favorite Bible passage.  Here it is:  “For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands.  For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love, and of self-discipline.”  2 Timothy 1:6,7.  As Jen shared the verse with her friend, I was reminded of how, like tending the fire in the fireplace, we need to be “tending” our faith on a regular basis so we don’t lose it.  If I had ignored the fire, it would have extinguished.  If I ignore my gift of God (faith), it can be something I extinguish as I live life.  Notice, I would extinguish it, not God.  Tending to a fire and tending to our faith – something we need to be vigilant about as God’s people!!

Family Discussion Points!
Who builds fires in your family in the fireplace?  Camping?  Etc.
If you had 6 hours to do whatever you wanted, what would it be?  Each family member share!
How do you “tend” your gift of God (faith) on a regular basis?  Is there something to work on in your life as you consider this?

Monday, February 4, 2013

Partners in Parenting

“Playing Favorites!”

I have another great story from the boys’ bathroom.  As a principal, great boys’ bathroom stories are pretty regular, and last week, I got a little glimpse into why I don’t have any great girls’ bathroom stories.  Here it goes:

I was using the boys’ bathroom last week when a 2nd grade boy walked in, and he quickly pumped his fist with a big, “YES!!”  I began to chuckle inside, but something told me to just wait for what he’d say next.  He didn’t disappoint me.

“This is my favorite urinal. I like this one the best.  Did you know that?”

I replied, “No, I didn’t know that.  I don’t have a favorite urinal.”

He quipped right back, “You don’t?  You should.  All of us boys have a favorite one.”

I didn’t respond because I was laughing too hard inside.

He goes on, “The boys all have a favorite one, but I don’t think the girls have a favorite.  They never talk about it.  Mr. Petzold, I wonder why they don’t.  Hmm, maybe they just don’t tell us.”

By now, he’s washing his hands, and all I can wonder is if he’s using his favorite sink too!!  Anyway, I just responded, “I just use whatever one I want.”

He dries his hands and said, “Not me. I wait for my favorite.”  Then he skips out the door.  I stood there drying my hands and laughing and thinking and wondering and realizing – no wonder I don’t have a single great girls’ bathroom story – I don’t believe girls think like that! 

I’m a boy, so I wouldn’t know for sure!

Parents, we all might have a favorite color, food, snack, vacation spot, car, etc., but we love all of our kids.  Kids are all different, and some need more help to succeed.  Some need more correction.  Some need more guidance.  Some eat more food.  Basically, some are easier, and some are more difficult.  Like boys and girls are different, no two children are the same.  Be careful about having a favorite child.  God doesn’t do that.  Paul is writing to the church in Rome about how all believers have the same value to God when he writes:  “For God does not show favoritism.” Romans 2:1.1   No favorites!  No matter how different we all are.

Family Discussion Points!

Talk about favorites of all kinds – dessert, TV show, food, game, etc.

Talk about family members differences.

Talk about how God loves us all the same despite our differences.  That’s called unconditional love!