Partners in Parenting

“Memories CAN be relived!”

This past weekend, our family relived an old and very happy memory.  We’ve always had a real Christmas tree.  The only memory our kids have had (with the exception of 2013) is going to a farm and finding our own Christmas tree.  Once we find the perfect tree, we then have to cut it down ourselves, drag it to where the tractor and wagon will pick us up, and wait for the farmer to deliver us and the tree back to our vehicle.  We did this over the weekend at the same farm the kids had gone to for years when they were young.  It was a wonderful time, and it brought back lots of events and stories from the past.  The kids ran around looking at trees and declaring, “This is the one!”  However, when the others in the family gave it a good looking-over, it was not “the one.”  So the search continued while walking through acres of trees on the farm until finally, way in the back of the farm, the perfect tree was identified.  I cut it down, and it fell on top of Evan – yes, another memory was made.  He was not injured, but we all had a great laugh together.  It is now a memory that will be relived again.  Maybe not physically relived, but I bet it will be told someday so we can relive it again…and again…and again…

Parent make memories for their family in the traditions of the family.  Sometimes, we aren’t even aware of those memories being made.  Think about some memories together and relive them as a family.  Either relive them physically by going there and doing that, or by talking about them!  Either way, they are being relived and create happy memories as you can see from the picture of my kids!

Family Discussion Points!

Talk about Christmas memories that are a part of your family.  When did they start?  Did you plan to have that memory be an important memory or did it just happen?

Telling stories about the past can help connect kids to their roots.  Share memories from your own Christmas celebrations growing up.  Your kids will love it.

If you want to start a new memory for your kids, NOW is the time to do it.  Talk about that as spouses to determine what you might want to start.