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“HONK --- Nothing!?”

I was coming home Sunday evening, and I was very exhausted.  I just wanted to sit down and relax for a bit – even take a nap.  As I drove down the street in our subdivision, once again, a truck was parked on one side of the street while a Jeep parked on the other side of the street.  Remember, I’m tired.  I just want to go rest a bit.  Well, due to all the snow piles on the side of the street, I had to very carefully pass between those two vehicles.  I had less than 4 inches to spare on both sides before my mirrors would hit theirs.  Frustrated, I said, “I should honk the horn so they can get out here and deal with this.  This is ridiculous that they could park anywhere, but they choose where a vehicle can hardly pass by.”  Someone from my family encouraged me to honk the horn, so I did…for 1.5 seconds.  That’s when it happened, HONK --- Nothing!  I was tired, frustrated, and ready to be home, but I let my frustration get the better of me.  The horn on my truck doesn’t work any longer.  That is amazing, since I never use it.  Nonetheless, it is broken and needs to be fixed!

I went home, parked my truck, and thought about the broken horn.  The horn needs fixing, but so do I.  I let frustration gain control over me.  I let anger dictate my decision.  I thought of myself before my neighbor.  Basically, I messed up!  Off to the dealer soon to get it fixed.

I am in need of fixing too.  And like my horn, I can’t do the fixing.  Someone else has to do that.  It is Jesus who fixes all my imperfections and struggles.  He does this through forgiveness.  The prophet Isaiah wrote about Jesus long ago:  “He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners.” Isaiah 61:1b

We can’t fix our own sinfulness, but Jesus can!  I may not have a working horn right now, but thankfully, I have a fully functioning Savior who takes away my sin!

Family Discussion Points!

Do you have any “broken” parts on your vehicle?  In your house?

Do you have any brokenness (sin) in you?  As a family, admit to being broken and needing Jesus.  This is true of everyone, but it is good to affirm each other in this.

Who in the family is best at fixing things?  Worse?

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“Wherever You Go, There You Are!”

My freshman year of college, my roommate would constantly joke with me whenever I was heading to class early in the morning as he remained in bed.  He’d say things like:

“Remember, the sky is blue.”

“Remember, vegetables are good for you.”

“Remember, the past is the past.”

Really goofy stuff, right?  He’d do this all the time with simple one-liners that rarely made you think.  One phrase he started to say on a regular basis was one I still think of fairly often today.  He’d say, “Remember, wherever you go, there you are.”  At the time, I didn’t think much of it at all.  Today, I think of that simple phrase and wonder if I am really living that out.

When I go to the store, am I really there?  Or am I just there physically, but my mind is back home thinking of the work to be done there?

When I am at my child’s basketball game, am I really watching it?  Or am I texting, checking emails on my phone, making a grocery list, etc.?

When I am at home, am I really present for my family?  Or am I still thinking about work things that need to be accomplished?

It is difficult to “be” in the place that I actually “am” sometimes – and I don’t do Facebook or Twitter!!!  It is hard, but I am reminded of how much the people in my life need me to “be” exactly where I “am.” 

Distractions are everywhere – IF I let them be.  If I don’t let them, then I can “be.”  (Hey, is that a new saying my old roommate could use?)

Family Discussion Points!

Parents, any “sayings” that your parents had when you were growing up that you could share with your kids.  Any sayings in your own house today?

Do you find it hard to “be” where you “are” sometimes?  Why?

Are the distractions more important than the people?  Then why do we sometimes struggle?

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More Time!”

Our Christmas Break was extended this year due to the snow and cold here in SE Michigan.  I don’t know for sure what the kids in your house were wishing for on Sunday, January 5, 2014, but mine were basically begging for a snow day (or two).  They just didn’t want to end their vacation.  They were overjoyed to get the word that they had more time for Christmas Break with school being cancelled for both Monday and Tuesday.  Ah, it gets better…on Tuesday the news that there will be no school on Wednesday either.  More time! 

“Dad, c’mon!  Why even bother going back this week with only two days left, and it is still pretty cold,” said one of my children on Wednesday.  They were bargaining for more time.  Parents may have been ready for school to start again, but the students, for the most part, wanted more time to relax at home.

I once read that a child knows very well how to spell the word LOVE.  It is easy to spell for all of us adults, right – L-O-V-E. Well, not quite so for a child.  Children tend to “spell” love like this – T-I-M-E.

As you begin a new year, I pray that your family would be blessed with the conviction to find more time to “just be together.”  Even as children get older and become teenagers, they still benefit greatly from more time with their family.  Someday, our kids will be off to college, married, and on with their own life where more time really gets hard to come by. 

Jesus even reminded his disciples of the reality that heaven is coming for all of us, but we really don’t know when.  He [Jesus] said to them:  “It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority.”  Acts 1:7  But never forget that eventually, we will all spend eternity with Him in heaven where we will definitely have more time than our minds can even fathom.  We can understand time on earth, but not in eternity where there will always be more time!

Family Discussion Points!

Do you really want more time together as a family.  Do you or not?  Give everyone a chance to share.  Why or why not?

Why would a child spell “love” in this way (T-I-M-E)?

Everyone take your best shot at describing eternity.  “It is like…” and go from there to see what you can come up with as a description.

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“For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders.  And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.  Isaiah 9:6

My prayer for all of our Trinity families is that they will worship together at least once over the Christmas Break.  It is time to celebrate Jesus birth into the world to be our Savior. 

Here is our worship schedule:

Christmas Eve (Tuesday, December 24^th)

4:00pm            Specifically designed for young children (approx.. 30 min.)

7:00pm            Candlelight Service (approx.. 1 hr)

11:00pm          Candlelight Service (approx.. 1 hr)

Christmas Day (Wednesday, December 25^th)

10:00am          Christmas Celebration

New Year’s Eve (Tuesday, December 31^st)

7:00pm            Final service of 2013

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“What is Necessary?”

It seems like my process of getting ready for Christmas this year has been more flooded with advertising than I ever recall.  Well, honestly, that is probably due to doing some online shopping this year where an email address is required to place the order.  Funny thing is:  I’ve never ordered a gift and had it sent to any place other than my home address.  Why is my email address important if you aren’t going to ship it to my email address?  Ah, advertising! 

All this has made me very conscious about what is necessary and important, and what is not!  I am trying to notice the excessiveness of Christmas.  I am trying to sift through commercialism to remain focused on Jesus, His birth, and worshipping Him.  I have started to see things all around me that “just aren’t necessary.”  It has become rather fun to do because I realize how abundantly God has blessed us with so much.  Do I need:

Dessert, an extra helping, more clothes, another pair of shoes, a left turn lane on the bridge, the latest version of all things “electronic” or “smart,” more lights and decorations to make my house comparable to the neighbor’s house, etc.

Yes, parents, I even noticed that it is a bit unnecessary to have a left turn lane on the bridge going over the spillway about a mile south of school.  Really!! Part of me just wants to turn on my blinker and sit there for a while to see what people do, but that might get me an overnight stay at a psychiatric hospital or even a jail!  Like many things all around us, we don’t need it, but it is there. 

What is needed is one thing – Jesus!  That goes for Christmastime and every day of our lives.  Jesus reminded Martha of that in the Bible when Mary wouldn’t help her with the housework.  Jesus reminded Martha that only ONE thing is needed.  What is necessary?  JESUS.  “Martha, Martha, Jesus answered, you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed.  Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”  Luke 10:41, 42