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“Blood All Over!”

On one of those extremely cold nights this past winter, our dog, Zeke, went outside into the sub-zero temperatures of the night.  He quickly came back into the house and its warmth.  As my wife walked through the kitchen, she quickly realized that for some strange reason there was blood all over the floor.  She soon realized that Zeke had somehow snapped a toenail in half.  I don’t know for sure, but I think it probably got rather brittle in the 20 degree below zero weather and snapped off when he hit it on the deck or something similar.  Dogs have something in their toenails called the “quick.”  It is basically a blood-filled canal that comes near the tip of the toenail.  When it gets cut, it can bleed pretty profusely.  We got the blood stopped eventually, but he couldn’t walk on that leg outside for almost 3 weeks. 

Having blood all over our house due to this event reminded me of the Passover as the 10^th Plague before Pharaoh let the Israelites leave Egypt with Moses.  It also reminds me as we near Good Friday and Easter that Jesus was our once-and-for-all Passover Lamb.  His death and resurrection assures those who have faith in Him that God will forgive all our sins.  It is through Jesus’ “blood all over” that cross on Calvary that we have been given the gift of righteousness and eternal life.  Blood all over can be a very scary thing for us (like in our house), but as Jesus’ death proves, it can also be a very good thing for us (like on the cross)!

“While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.  Since we have now been justified by his blood, how much more shall we be saved from God’s wrath through him!”  Romans 5:8b, 9

Family Discussion Points!

When is the last time you saw your own blood?  Was there a lot of blood or just a little?

Blood gives life to our entire body while we are alive.  Talk about how Jesus’ blood gives life to our entire being so we can live in heaven eternally.  (forgiveness of all sins)

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Being Wanted!

Most people would probably admit that they like being wanted by another person.  Being wanted means that you play a significant part in the other person’s life.  Isn’t it great to have a friend want to spend time with you?  Isn’t it a great feeling to be asked out on a date – by your spouse?  Isn’t it an awesome feeling to have your child, say to you, “I’m struggling with something, and I want your advice?”  We live as relational people desiring to be bonded with others through the mutual desiring of each other’s affection.  Being wanted by another is generally a very good thing.

However, outlaws are sometimes placed on “Wanted” lists with the police, FBI, or other law enforcement agencies.  That kind of being “Wanted” is not a good thing.  I thought I was coming to school for a regular day of school here at Trinity last week, but when I got here, I discovered that myself and two teachers were on “Wanted” posters throughout the school.  Uh Oh, what had I done?  Well, you’ll have to read the poster to find out my crime (see below).

Parenting can become a blessing of being wanted as well as a curse of being wanted.  Being wanted by my kids for A:  bedtime prayers, hugs, band aids, holding, help with problems, and general provision of food, shelter, and clothing, is something I cherish.  Being wanted by my kids for B:  spending money, a ride here or there, fixing a broken toy, the “whooping boy” of overreacting, and the general barrage of whining, complaining, and unwarranted disgruntledness is something I loathe.

Notice the difference between A and B.  As parents, kids want us to be there for them for both.  The part I find difficult is to find satisfaction in parenting with responses like the list B.  Read the two lists again.  Both lists communicate the same thing in very different ways.  They communicate – I want you in my life.  Help!

Parents need to help their children learn that love is a constant.  Love just may look as different as list A and B above.  Parents are most wanted for their love.

“[Love] always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails.” I Corinthians 13:7,8a

Family Discussion Points!

When are the times that kids most want their parents around to show them love?

Parents, is discipline a form of love? Why did you answer the way you did?

Talk about the pressures of being wanted in too many directions by too many people in too short a time frame.  What does that do to a person?

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Climate Change!

I flew to Florida two weeks ago.  It was warm and sunny every day until the day I left.  It was a shock to my system.  I have been in the freezing cold climate of Michigan all winter, and I was suddenly sweating as I waited for my rental car inspection to be finished.  No, Florida wasn’t that hot.  I was just dressed in the same warm clothes as when I left Michigan.

I admit to not drinking enough water every day, but when I got to Florida, I HAD to have it.  I went to the store the morning after I got there to get a case of water.  The heat felt really hot because I just wasn’t used to it.  Just as I started to get used to it, it was time to come home to Michigan again.  Another climate change – all in the same week.

Experiencing the climate changes on my trip made me consider the climate of my home.  As a parent, I play a part in creating the “climate of our home.”  I am one of five people in my home, but I think I play a larger role in creating the climate of our home than one-fifth.  So does my wife.  As the parents, we are called by God to lead our home.  Everyone contributes to the climate, but we, as parents, are called to lead.

We can’t wait for the climate of spring to arrive and change what we’ve been enduring this winter.  Is a climate change needed at home too?  If so, who will lead making the change happen?  What if the answer to that question was…God!!  He can change the climate when we imitate His love.  “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love…” Ephesians 5:1,2a

Family Discussion Points!

Name the hottest place you’ve ever been!  Coldest!

Who wishes winter was over and why?  Do you promise today to never complain about the heat this summer??

What words would you use (or would other people use) to describe the climate of your home?  Do you want to change it?  What will change it (see above verse)?

What does love look like in a home?  What doesn’t it look like?

(I realize the climate of a home may not be very good at all.  I grew up that way, so I get it.  My parents rarely spoke a kind word to each other when I grew up.  I, also, am a sinful husband and father, and I live with sinful people in my home.  It won’t be perfect, but an overriding climate is evident.  If it isn’t good, a desire to change has to be everyone’s goal.  Don’t forget that sinfulness is in all of us, so the only perfect home will be in heaven!)